I’ve got less than a week left at work – so when I heard from Tim Hicks recently I was SUPER excited to ask him some questions about his kids, parenting, his wife’s pregnancy – the whole bit!
Tim and his wife Amanda have 2 kids – a boy and a girl! They are adorable! Jackson James Douglas was born in 2011 and Annaleigh Jane in 2013.
Tim is a great guy – you’ve heard him on CISN with his hits like “Stomping’ Ground” , “Here Comes The Thunder”, “Stronger Beer” and of course – “Buzz, Buzz, Buzzing” ( or Buzz Buzz Busby as Chris, Matt & I like to call it!) . He is also going to be performing with Chad Brownlee at the West Edmonton Mall Waterpark on January 14! FUN!
So without further adieu – enjoy this interview – I sure did! Especially the last question – how sweet is his response?!
How did you feel the moment you found out you were going to be a dad?
I knew I would feel a fury of emotions based on what people had told me about their experience finding out they were to become parents, but I didn’t completely understand until I felt them for myself. Excitement, happiness, pure joy, extreme fear, and the feeling that my life would be forever changed. It was overwhelming at first and very nerve-racking, but I think that energy is a good thing, it keeps you on your toes.
How did your wife share the news with you?
I was on my way to a gig and she called to tell me. In fact, both times I was on my way to a gig. Figures, huh?
How did you tell your families?
We couldn’t wait to tell our families! We tried our best to wait the “thirteen weeks” to tell everyone, but we just couldn’t hold it in. Pretty sure that parents and close friends were called right away. There was no elaborate reveal or anything like that, just two excited kids about to have a family.
What were you most excited / scared for ?
Both times I was most excited to meet this little person that would now be a part of my life forever. I wondered what kind of a person he or she would be, what kinds of things they would be interested in, that kind of thing. I was most scared of the logistics of raising a child. I knew nothing about any of that. I wondered how it all would work being as I was a working musician at the time with no recording contract. I thought, “What can I possibly offer this child in terms of life advice? What do I know?”. Somehow it all works out or at least it did in our case.
Did your wife have any pregnancy cravings? Did you have to make any trips out to the store to get it NOW??
Nah, Amanda was pretty easy that way. I can’t remember anything strange. She was very on top of her nutrition, being a nurse in the “Healthy Babies Program”, she just knew what to do right away. Friends of ours were pregnant around the same time and the mom would crave “smoked meats”, which was especially interesting because she was a vegetarian at the time! Amanda didn’t have the same experience as I recall.
What books or iPhone Apps did you or your wife use and find most helpful while she was pregnant? Ha! She kept bringing home books and books and she read them all. I, on the other hand, read none of them. I just figured that nature and good sense would guide me along the way. Plus, I had a secretweapon- I married a baby nurse! She did use an app a lot though. It was “Mom and Baby to Be”. The app laid out what to expect at each stage, what to eat, what breast feeding would be like, that kind of thing. She found it very helpful.
Did you find out the gender before your children were born? Why or why not?
Yes, we did both times. For me, working and living in a field where you are constantly flying by the seat of your pants, never knowing what’s around the corner, I figured that if there was a way to learn anything concrete about the baby, I wanted to know. Both times, I guessed wrong. I thought for sure JJ would be a girl and Anna would be a boy. Just goes to show what I know…
Any crazy pregnancy stories? Hormone outbursts?
No specific stories come to mind, but I remember especially near the end having to walk on a few more egg shells…. ☺
As a Dad – did you have any sympathy weight gain or pains? They say its a real thing……
Not sure if it was sympathy weight gain or just adjusting to being a man in his thirties, but yeah I did put on a few. I didn’t have any pains or anything like that. I think that’s natural. As Amanda’s pregnancy progressed we inevitably became a little less active, a little more prone to hang on the couch, and little more open to eating litres of ice-cream while hanging out.
Of course as a Dad- you may not have first hand Labour Advice for us girls but as a Dad what was your experience like when your wife was in labour?
It was maybe the hardest thing I ever had to watch. There she is, the love of my life and the mother of my children in the most pain she’s ever been in and there’s not a thing I can do to help. Admittedly, there were parts of that night where I shut down in order to cope. Amanda was in labour for 21 hours before they decided to do an emergency C-section. It was tense and very stressful as a young father-to-be, and clearly even more difficult for my wife. But it all turned out great in the end.
When you first saw your newborn children – what was the first thing to go through your mind?
With JJ, I remember thinking, “Wow, that’s a big baby!”. And he was! He was 11 lbs, 4oz., which was why he didn’t wanna come naturally- he was just too big! In fact, he was so big that a lot of the hospital staff kept coming by the room afterwards just to see “the big baby”. With Anna, it was a different experience all together. She was so small and dainty and very beautiful. It was love at first sight in both cases.
Advice you were given that helped the most as a new dad? Any “Dad Hacks” or shortcuts you can let us in on?
Yeah, I wasn’t told this directly as advice, but friends of ours had babies before us and so I would pay attention to what they had to say when we had conversations about having kids. I remember having a discussion about parenting with them and my buddy (the dad) said to his wife, “Just because I do it different, doesn’t mean it’s wrong”. I thought that was brilliant. I think it’s important to recognize that moms and dads are going to have slight stylistic differences when it comes to parenting and you have to be able to accept that in each other as partners. As long as the process is positive and rooted in love, it shouldn’t matter how you get to the end result in whatever it is: diaper changing, getting the baby to sleep, feeding, etc.
How fast can you change a diaper?
Honestly, I think my diaper skills would impress you!
What has changed the most since becoming a dad?
Everything! I can’t remember what it was like without my kids in my life. I feel like having a family has given me the most amount of life focus I have ever had. Suddenly there’s meaning in everything I do and I get to re-experience the world through their eyes. Pretty incredible! I do, however, miss sleeping. They tell me I’ll get to sleep again in a few years…
Whats the BEST thing about being a dad?
The best thing for me is the excitement in my kids’ eyes when I come home after being away. Facetime and Skype are a god-send, but they don’t replace a hug. When I come through the door and everyone yells, “Daddy!!” and comes running to give me a squeeze, that’s the best EVER!