When Kathy and Brandon got married 9 years ago, one of their weddings gifts came with specific instructions. Do NOT open until you have your first disagreement. Now, I know what you’re thinking…how did they not disagree for 9 years?! I thought the same thing, but Kathy says of course they argued, they just never had the courage to open the gift. “Now, there had obviously been plenty of disagreements, arguments and slammed doors throughout our nine years. There were even a couple of instances where we both considered giving up, but we never opened the box.” She goes on to say they both feared opening the gift would be admitting failure in their marriage. “So, it forced us to reassess situations. Was it really time to open the box? What if this isn’t our worst fight? What if there’s a worse one ahead of us and we don’t have our box?!” Recently, they were trying to figure out what they should buy for their friends who were getting married…then they remembered the gift!
Inside were a pair of wine glasses, some bath products and 2 cards with a bit of money inside. Kathy’s card read “Go get a pizza, shrimp or something you both like. Get a ‘bath’ ready.” and Brandon’s said “Go get flowers and a bottle of wine.”
“We thought the box would save ‘us’ – and in a way it did. That box went beyond what I believe my Great Aunt had intended. It was by far the greatest wedding gift of all. It somehow taught us about tolerance, understanding, compromise and patience. Our marriage strengthened as we became best friends, partners, and teammates.”